Let’s explore the impact of addiction on family relationships, offer resources for healing and improving communications, and discern support from enable. Let’s share some dialogue! What are your thoughts on the role of family in a recovery process?
What is love? Are there different kinds of love or merely different perceptions of it? What is familial love, is it storge? If there are different types of love, is Agape at the highest level? And then, where does eros stand, this sprout from chaos? Finally, to keep our News Brief a brief one, how about being called Philia? It feels nice, right? What we know from our marble stairs is that nonjudgemental interpersonal dynamics with unconditional love and respect play a major role in the healing process of remission. We call it – Affirmation, the first element of an ARMOR Program (Addiction Remission Model of Recovery). With all the to-do of ethical boundaries and professional what not, using the word “love” is sure to wreak much more havoc than already experienced by our species of network participants.
What potential resources for healing can we find? Over the past dozen years of working within our program it is clear – some OUDs (opioid use disorders) have been emotionally deprived of genuine selfless and unconditional love somewhere along their journey through life, as either young adults or youngsters. Another portion have had traumatic experiences that squelched any and all trust in another human being period. Older adults, authority figures, and/or professionals, whomever responsible become a symbol of fear and dread. When this happens, refusal to accept love from anyone becomes an ingrained defensive strategy, a sort of self-imposed emotional deprivation if you will. Loving respect from another is an essential ingredient for the healthy human process. This shared affirmation is imperative for healthy family lifestyles too, without it, pathology creeps into the human condition, the family system, and on into our community. Simply sharing a loving dynamic is your ultimate resource!
What is tough love or detachment with love? With respect to our concept of Affirmation, they are damaging resolutions for a problem requiring the opposite type of attention and care; they only exacerbate the pathology of addiction disorders. Of course, living in the presence of active addiction can lead to loved ones developing a co-dependency scenario. Discerning loving support from manipulated enabling is super challenging too, quite possibly, beyond comprehension and capability for most parents and family members. Storge generates conditioned interpersonal dynamics, with permeable boundaries, and compromised perceptions of intentions among active addiction disorders. Separating from the harmful acted out behaviors of active addiction disorders can become a matter of self-preservation and necessary. Ignore the bad and reward the good is Doc’s war cry! Path of the Warrior
What does Thanksgiving mean for You?
Thanks, expressions of gratitude;
acknowledges, cheers, extols, honors …
Shames, expression of dishonor;
bad-mouths, condemns, damns, humiliates …
Giving, acts of offering;
shelter, water, food, empathy …
Taking, acts of removing;
buckling, committing, hustling, stressing …
Words, and Deeds, can be positive, or negative.
Will you be positive, or negative this Thanksgiving?
Are you the rare soul who has never done anything wrong?
For some, it is a time of;
reunions, football, drumsticks, and drumrolls.
For others, it is a time of;
forced relocation, dumpster diving, and dread.
If you are free of all addictive behaviors,
Be Grateful, and give Thanks!
If you have food and shelter,
Give Thanks, and be Grateful!
Mixed Methods Study evaluating aftercare outcomes for addiction treatment within spiritually based and non-spiritually based programs. (2011) Doc LaBranche. Online